I have a few favorite blogs. One of my most favorite blogs is Dances with Fat. While reading one of Ragen’s most recent posts I found a paragraph that I absolutely love. Love. Love. Love. The post addresses the problem of weight shaming from “well meaning” family members (aka concern trolls) during the holidays. You can read the full “Combating Holiday Weight Shame” post here.
My favorite part of the post is this:
My body is not a representation of my failures, sins, or mistakes. My body is not a sign that I am in poor health, or that I am not physically fit neither of which is your business regardless. My body is not up for public discussion, debate or judgment. My body is not a signal that I need your help or input to make decisions about my health or life. My body is the constant companion that helps me do every single thing that I do every second of every day and it deserves respect and admiration. If you are incapable of appreciating my body that is your deficiency, not mine, and I do not care. Nor am I interested in hearing your thoughts on the matter so, if you want to be around me, you are 100% responsible for doing whatever it takes to keep those thoughts to yourself. If you are incapable of doing that I will leave and spend my time with people who can treat me appropriately.
-Ragen Chastain, Dances with Fat-